'I've been divorced for 4 months - but my ex is livid I missed our anniversary'

Anniversaries are a big deal for some couples, and you may find yourself in trouble with your partner if you forget the important date that you started your relationship, or that you got married

But one man has been left baffled after he was accused of missing a wedding anniversary - by his ex-wife.

The confused bloke - who is now dating someone new - explained he and his ex-wife separated around 10 months ago, and their divorce was finalised four months ago, making their recent anniversary the first since their divorce.

And in the early hours of the morning, he received a phone call from his ex in which she wished him a happy anniversary - and was left seething when he didn't say it back.

In a post on Reddit, he said: "My ex-wife and I had been married for about two years, then we separated. We separated as I wanted to have children but she didn't. We had this conversation when we were dating and she said she just wanted to wait a few years after marriage. The years came and went, after which she decided she didn't want to have children. She knew children were something important to me so we separated.

"We filed for divorce about 10 months ago and have been officially divorced for four months (the waiting period where we live is six months). After the divorce, I moved on, and I began dating again!

"Nevertheless, yesterday (I guess technically this morning) I get a call from my ex-wife. This wasn't unusual as we stay in contact, but calling so late at night/early in the morning (1am) was weird and alarming.

"I picked up, only for her to say 'Happy Anniversary'. I was half-asleep and I just said 'thank you' and went to sleep. In the morning, I received a flurry of messages from her. I didn't understand what the hell was going on so I called, only for her to yell at me, while half-crying, [because] I didn't wish her a 'happy anniversary' back."

The man said he was completely perplexed by his ex-wife's comments, but when he pointed out that they're divorced now so the anniversary is no longer celebrated, she hung up on him.

He added: "I was so confused and I just said, 'we're divorced'. She yelled at me some more but before I could even get a word in, she cut off the phone. I tried to call again but to no avail.

"I feel like I didn't say anything wrong but I still feel awful. I don't know if what I did was right or wrong."

Commenters on the post were quick to assure the man he didn't need to honour an anniversary for a marriage that is over, but many also sympathised with his ex-wife, as they said she may be finding the split hard to deal with.

One person said: "You did absolutely nothing wrong. The anniversary doesn't exist anymore."

While another added: "It is not standard behaviour to wish your ex a happy anniversary. Whatever emotional turmoil she might be going through on this day, you are not. And I'm sure that sucks and is hurtful for her. But that doesn't mean you did anything wrong. You are separating and moving on. Exactly what you are supposed to be doing."

And a third wrote: "It seems like she’s having a harder time coping with the breakup but that doesn’t mean you need to do anything differently. Keep moving forward."

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