Relationship dymanics are changing rapidly and we’re soon moving away from conventions to try out new things. People are opting for open relationships which implies that while you are dating someone, you can also have other partners. The rules vary from couple to couple. While some people manage their open relationship like a breeze, most people end up realizing that it's not for them.
So, to find out how exactly it is to be in an open relationship, we did some research on Reddit and found a thread where people talked about their experiences with open relationships. We got you 7 of the most revealing responses to help you understand the nature of such relationships better:
1. "I was polyamorous for around 2 and a half years, I was just dating around (usually 2 or 3 partners at a time) while following rules that my primary and I had set. I'm done with that now, though. I'm glad I got it out of my system when I was young. Mono all the way."
2. "We're in a relationship with each other but we're free to have casual encounters with others. We just have different styles of doing this. I prefer to go on dates with people before hopping into bed with them and seeing them multiple times, whereas he prefers to hook up with people on a one-night-stand kind of deal. We have rules though and we have open communication and honesty about what we do with others."
3. "We set up a lot of ground rules initially, things like you can't hang out with that person all the time and sleep with them more than 3 times, etc. Things that would mean that you were now in a relationship with someone else (we wanted open play, not poly relationships). Now we just can't be bothered seeing other people and the sex was never as good as with each other. We might bring in a person to jointly play with once or twice a year, but we're kind of just "over" seeing other people. Honestly, mostly the same as before we were open."
4. "My friend's brother is in an open relationship. I've heard how he went and fucked around, but the second his wife went to go do her thing there was a huge argument. Basically he wanted to fuck whoever he wanted, and thought she wouldn't try the same."
5. "I am not in the relationship, but I am in a FWB (friends with benefits) relationship with a guy AND sometimes his girl who are in an open relationship. They have been together since high school, and we are all in our 30's now. They do have a kid together. I have been with one or the other, or both, but I have never even met the kid. If it's with both of them, they send the kid to a sitter and we go to their house. If it's one or the other, we either get a room or go to my place. It seems to work very well with them as long as the 3rd party is cool with it. He has tried numerous girls over the years, but they always want more, or don't like the fact that his SO comes first. I don't want a relationship right now, so it works out great for me. (It's been going on for about 7 years now, off and on)"
6. "After a lot of arguing between my husband and I about the lack of sex in our relationship (I have a very low libido because of medications I have to be on), we finally came to an agreement that he could find a FWB. We agreed to some ground rules beforehand, like he couldn't spend more time with her than with me, he had to be safe, I wanted to know before he he did anything (not immediately before, but I needed a heads' up that he was interested in someone), and if he started developing feelings, he was to immediately drop it.
He started looking, and everything was fine. He'd show me some steamy texts he'd been exchanging every now and then, and it was fine; I really wasn't jealous and I was glad he was having fun and was at least somewhat being satisfied when I couldn't help him.
Then he came home and told me he was leaving me for someone else. He hadn't even had sex with her yet, but had met her while looking for a FWB. And now he's gone."
7. "A friend of mine is in one and he and his significant other actually encourage one another to go at it with their best friends. It’s kind of weird from an outside perspective since it seems like they just do it with other people and never with each other."
unsplashWell, relationships are indeed complicated!