All our lives, we are taught to be kind to people. From our parents to our teachers, basic courtesy is a part of each lesson they teach us. However, as we grow up, we are faced with situations where others aren't very nice to us.
From our peers to our colleagues to our bosses, there is someone or the other who tries to put us down. The reasons for doing so could vary depending on who the person is; a friend might do it just for the fun of it, a colleague's reason could be jealousy and a boss could just be trying to assert their dominance.
As an adult, we are told several ways to deal with such people. But what really is the right approach? Well, to make this easier for you, here are some ways you could apply to your life when someone puts you down.1. Avoid reacting right away.
Sometimes, it is best not to react in situations which lead to no consequences. Whenever someone tries to put you down, avoiding engaging in a conversation with them immediately is the best approach because that is exactly what they want you to do. This does not mean that you don't can't stand your own ground, but instead, it speaks volumes about how you don't let petty things get to you. It also contributes to you becoming an even more tolerant person.
2. Don't be mean.
You might want to give them a piece of your mind with a comeback of your own but not everybody deserves that. If it is all fun and games with friends and this is done in good taste, you might as well join in. But if someone is doing it just to get on your nerves, investing your energy on them is a complete waste of time. Be the bigger person and let them rot in their hate.
3. Kill them with kindness.
People who try to insult others just for the sake of it hate it when you don't match their vibe. An angry person gets even angrier when the opposition responds kindly and politely. Their anger is not your problem and in order to show them that being angry isn't going to help them, being kind to such people is a great way to put them down in return.
4. Ask them to stop.
There are times when certain people tend to get out of hand and their misbehaviour starts becoming a prominent problem. When such a situation arises, it is best to let them know that such crass behaviour will not be tolerated and if they still don't listen, you can educate them with consequences that could take place because of how they choose to behave.
Unsplash5. Don't take it personally.
How another person chooses to behave is not your concern and if their approach towards everyone is nasty, you don't have to be bothered with them. Don't let their hate get to you and never ever take their comments to heart. As long as you know your place when it comes to being kind, you're good to go. Do not let someone else's hate infiltrate your peaceful life.
6. Ask for support from others/be supportive.
If there is someone who constantly tries to put you or others down in a work environment, forming an alliance against them can work wonders. Once someone like that is made aware of the fact that everyone around them disapproves of their bad behaviour, they might feel ashamed and put a stop to it. If they don't, they are not your problem and like mentioned before, ignoring them is the best thing to do.
7. Set your boundaries.
In friendly circles, people tend to mock each other all the time. The main thing is to be able to differentiate between when someone is doing it for laughs and when they're trying to be spiteful. Draw some limits for these people and let them know that humour is appreciated but getting out of hand with their 'insults' will not be tolerated. Laughing with someone and laughing at someone are completely two different concepts.
8. Develop a strategy.
People who have a habit of insulting or name-calling others are basically the kind of people who've never been taught any better. Let them know that their behaviour isn't appreciated but without losing your own temper. Try to have a conversation with them if it's someone who is an active part of your daily life. You might just decode their bad behaviour for something that is actually bothering them.
9. Stay calm.
Staying calm when everyone around you is losing their shit is probably a very difficult art to master. But it makes you a much bigger person when you're able to contain your anger in order to avoid unnecessary confrontations. Being assertive and yet staying calm is a great combination, one that will forever keep you at peace.
If you have any tips on how to do deal with such people, let us know in the comments!