We can never repay our parents' debt. As broke ass adults trying to get it right in life, we now know buying a house, raising children and sending them to school isn't as easy as it's made out to be. But there are some things we wish they knew while raising us. A recent viral thread on Reddit collected the voices of women who talked about things they want all fathers raising daughters to know. And the answers are very real.
unsplash1. "The way you treat your wife or girlfriend will teach me how I should expect men to treat me."
2. "If we're avoiding a male relative's house, take the hint! Don't force us to go."
3. "My dad was a high school teacher that taught at a really good school. As a teen, I wanted to attend the school my dad taught at but he and my mother insisted I attended a different one that was apparently "of a better standard". It wasn't until years later my mother admitted to me that the reason I was put in a different school was because my dad didn't want me to get teased by other students about him or feel embarrassed by him.""I wish my dad knew he could never embarrass me. Love you daddy. R.I.P."
4. "I liked trains. He apparently was really sad when my gender was revealed and I was a girl. He wanted a boy to play trains with and I was the last kid they were going to have. Youngest of 3 girls. I liked trains. My mom would buy toy trains and train movies for me to play with, and I would play with them for hours, but my dad never saw me playing with them because when he got home from work, all I wanted to do was play with my dad, and he didn't typically use toys to play with me. He would just teach me cool stuff, or tell me jokes and stories. He played using his voice. If I had known he wanted to play with trains, we would've had a blast."
—u/Avbitten5. "You're allowed to think my boyfriend or girlfriend is cool. You don't have to try to intimidate them. They're not here to hurt me."
unsplash6. "I wish he understood that daughters need their dads growing up."
7. "When you do something wrong, apologize. Don't try to ignore what we just fought about and try to be our friend 15 minutes later."
unsplash8. "I'm jealous of all the time and money you spent on my brother getting to know him as a person. I wish you'd just treated me like a person, not some vagina you felt the need to creepily guard until I got married."
9. "Don’t make comments about your daughter's body. Overweight? Getting breasts? Don’t make snide comments. It’s hurtful to young girls and women."
unsplash10. "It doesn't make you look weak to show affection once in a while. My dad hardly ever hugged us or said he loved us."
11. "If you spend a good portion of your daughter's childhood talking about how much better and easier a son would be to raise, don't be surprised when she grows up confiding almost exclusively in her mother."