While there are a number of things we shouldn't do like bullying, cheating or bitching, there is one more thing that absolutely adds no value in your everyday life and that is holding onto a grudge. This leads to constant overthinking and puts additional pressure on you making your mental health suffer.
Human nature is such that if the other party is not taking responsibility for their actions, it kills us. The idea of forgiving a person who caused you pain isn’t a viable option for people and holding on to resentment comes naturally.
As much as holding onto grudges makes sense to you, please read ahead to know exactly why it doing you a lot of harm:1. Everything seems better when there is no hatred involved. Grudges only strengthen your love for hatred towards an individual and that does you no good.
Unsplash2. It diminishes your productivity. Thinking constantly about someone for hours thinking about the why and how in your head will kill your productivity.
Unsplash3. You’ll attract only negativity around. Failing to see the positive side to things will affect your attitude and might change you as a person.
Unsplash4. It’ll only add to your stress. Bitterness and anger cause high level of stress hormones and that affects health.
Unsplash5. You’ll lose the most important thing in life. Sleep. One 2005 study found that a person who let go of resentment saw improved sleep.
Unsplash6. More grudges lead to more anger. American Heart Association suggests that high levels of anger may increase the risk of coronary heart disease.
Unsplash7. You won't be able to create more social bonds. The already existing unresolved issues will never let you create better bonds.
Unsplash8. The person you're holding a grudge against is probably not even thinking about it so much. So why are you?
Unsplash9. It takes away your focus. Focusing on the wrong things and people will eventually take you away from the important tasks that you must perform.
Researchers from Glasgow Caledonian University and Edinburgh Napier University, in Scotland, found out that besides emotional toll, a grudge increases feelings of physical pain too even if it does not align with the incident in question.
So, if you feel your neck or back pain has increased, let that grudge go and see the difference yourself.