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10 Signs of Low Self Esteem in a Man

Let's face it, men often criticize women for having low self-esteem, all the while spending ample time flexing in front of the mirror and getting anxious over a girl blocking them on Instagram.

Before entertaining their complaints about our supposed insecurity, it's important to recognize that men also grapple with low self-esteem, albeit manifesting in different ways.

While women may display insecurities more openly due to their emotional expressiveness, identifying signs of low self-esteem in men is equally possible, provided you know what to look for.

We've all seen scenarios like those in Twilight, where having an attractive boyfriend who closely follows you around doesn't seem so bad, especially if it's someone like Robert Pattinson. However, the tricky part is that low self-esteem can be adept at hiding itself, regardless of outward appearances.

When you're in a relationship with someone dealing with low self-esteem, you find yourself immersed in their insecurities, which can inevitably impact you. This isn't to say you should immediately distance yourself from them, as some insecurities are conquerable.

Nevertheless, if your boyfriend exhibits signs of low self-esteem in a man, it's crucial to assess your relationship. Consider whether this is someone you want as a significant part of your life and be attentive to these warning signs.

# He engages in self-deprecation.

While occasional self-criticism is normal, constant self-deprecation is not a sign of humility but rather indicative of low self-esteem. Believing he's incapable, he consistently insults and belittles himself. Statements like "I can't believe you want to date me" or "I never thought I'd find someone who's a ten" reveal serious self-image issues.

# He presents an illusion of perfection.

He meticulously maintains a facade of flawlessness—perfect hair, trendy clothes, envy-inducing car. However, perfection is an illusion, and the appearance of flawlessness often conceals inner struggles. Beware, as he may be grappling with personal demons.

# He exhibits jealousy.

Constantly checking your interactions and baselessly accusing you is a manifestation of jealousy linked to low self-esteem. Unfortunately, this behavior tends to escalate over time unless drastic measures, like cutting ties with everyone, are taken.

# He criticizes you.

While constructive criticism is healthy in a relationship, incessant fault-finding becomes abusive. True love accepts you as you are, but if he habitually criticizes every aspect of your being, it's a reflection of his own negativity and need to feel superior.

# He resorts to physical aggression.

Physical abuse, such as pushing or hitting, is an immediate red flag. If violence is escalating, it indicates a profound issue with low self-esteem. Recognize this behavior as an attempt to compensate for insecurities by asserting dominance.

# He desires exclusivity.

He is possessive and reluctant to share you with anyone, isolating you from friends and family. This possessiveness stems from his inability to tolerate sharing your attention, revealing deeper insecurities.

# He's persistently negative.

A perpetual "Debbie Downer," he finds fault in everything and is never content. Healthy relationships should uplift each other, but his constant negativity drags you down, highlighting his dissatisfaction and unresolved issues.

# He fails to truly listen.

Though physically present, he doesn't genuinely listen to you, only hearing what can be used against you in an argument. Disregarding your feelings, he creates an environment where you feel the need to tread carefully in your interactions.

# He refuses to admit fault.

Despite making mistakes, he consistently avoids acknowledging his errors. Blaming external factors, he shields himself from the emotional toll of admitting fault, a coping mechanism linked to low self-esteem.

# He undermines your successes.

He struggles to celebrate your achievements unless he has a corresponding success. Feeling threatened by your accomplishments, he belittles your achievements to maintain a perceived sense of superiority. This behavior forces you to downplay your successes in his presence.