'Choice of happiness'

My elder son is a 43-year-old divorcee who is well educated and earns a handsome salary. My wife and I are advancing in years and have several health issues; we are deeply concerned as he refuses to remarry. — Narinder Bansal, 73 years

■Your concerns as a parent are notout of line. But making your son’s marriage your mission statement in life is not feasible.

You can only push so far; after which parental concern depreciates. To emotionally pressure children, regardless of good intent or cause, is not advisable. 

As parents, we may only guide our children. Besides, marriage is not a passport to happiness. Your son may get second time lucky or otherwise. Either way, as a discerning young man, let him decide for himself. Also, he may have his own reasons for not wanting to marry. 

We all have that odd unanswered prayer in life. And we feel unhappy, every time we encounter that void. In truth, the only way to feel whole and complete is through strong spiritual moorings. 

Don’t let the bhavsagar, ocean of life consume you. You need to detach and disengage at some point. And as our autumnal years approach, the time is just right to integrate with a higher order of being. So opt to stay happy; it will visibly radiate in your health. Furthermore, your choice of happiness will deservedly transform the low vibrational energies of your home.

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