Why I behave like a single woman despite being married

When you are married you should never become dependent on your spouse no matter what. Yes emotionally we do look towards him but the truth is that in the end, you are always on your own no matter how much of a “love marriage” it is. We never know when the direction of love changes because nothing is permanent. I have been married for 5 years and behave like a single woman despite being married for many reasons after learning lessons from my unhappily married friends , and so should you.

Who decides my happiness?

As Phoebe said in “FRIENDS” who is the boss of you? You yourself! You cannot afford to let someone else decide your happy moments. Simply put, if your husband is not around, can you really just mope around and be dull, wasting several hours of your life like that? Your happiness should be from within you and there must be no dependence on anyone no matter how much you love them. If you love yourself, you will always be happy.


Skills are not just for the office

Your skillset is and should not be restricted to just office work. You must have enough skills that if something ever happens in your family like your husband being fired thanks to this layoff wave, you have enough to run not just your house but you are also independently. There have been so many instances when a wife leaves her job to raise and care for her family post-marriage so much so that she starts ignoring herself. She forgets and lets go of her real identity and when her husband leaves her or she wants to walk out, she is unable to because of her finances. You must always keep oiling the hinges of your skill whether it is baking, cooking, singing, teaching, painting, or even if you know different languages, etc, keep practicing.

To upkeep the respect

My husband had begun losing interest in me and the respect was almost gone after 3 years of marriage and our first baby. I had left everything to care for all until one day I realized that my husband had married me for the real me, the independent woman he dated for a year before marrying. It’s not that my husband had asked me to leave everything, he was there to help so I cannot blame him. So, I slowly picked up the threads and strengthened them again and in a few months, I was that happy independent woman again!

Self-care, self-indulgence, doing things on your own, and maintaining your identity are very important for us, especially after marriage. Many people think this is only for single women so here’s to us women who love being single despite being married!


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